Have you been looking for Mrs Right, but keep striking out?  Do you find yourself scrolling through profiles?  Have you ever felt when dating other women you had to put on an act or try to impress them? Over time this facade drains the energy out of you and eventually they see through you anyway. If you find someone with whom you are comfortable being yourself, that’s a sign! Your partner ought to make you feel relaxed and allow you to be the real you.

Looking for Mrs Right: Your Priorities Change

When you find Mrs Right, other things you thought were important will become secondary. Going to the bar or hanging out with your buddies all the time isn’t as important as spending time with her. Granted, it should be noted that having activities that you both do separately, such as hobbies, can actually be healthy for a relationship. Yet, when you’re done, if you find yourself wanting to be with her, you know that your life is about to change.

Looking for Mrs Right: It’s Easy to Spend Time Together

Spending time together should also feel natural and relaxed. You find yourself wanting to do things together, whether it’s going to a ball game, a movie, or out on the trail. If you are finding that you’re forcing mrs rightyourself to want to spend time with her that is a warning sign. She isn’t the right person for you. After all, people in committed relationships spend a lot of time interacting with each other. For the most part, that should be easy to do.

Looking for Mrs Right: She’s Always on Your Mind

Do you catch yourself thinking about her when you are not together? We’re not talking about times when the two of you are having sex. It’s the little moments, such as holding hands, laughing at a joke, appreciating a view, or sharing a meal together. Do those moments bring up a smile, a laugh, or just make you feel good?

Looking for Mrs Right: Laughter

Does she make you laugh? Even better, do you both laugh together? Are you creating your own inside jokes? Does she appreciate your sense of humor? Laughter is actually an important quality, as when we laugh we are completely relaxed and our guard is down. Laughing is a time when we are the most vulnerable. When we can share that moment with someone you think might be the one, it becomes a truly special occasion.

Looking for Mrs Right: Feeling Understood

Our partners should allow us to feel understood, accepted, and experience a sense of belonging. Don’t underestimate these qualities. When you do find Mrs Right, not only will she enhance this feeling, hopefully, she will feel the same. When your partner does that for you don’t let go. Find ways to foster that connection, for that is truly special.

But What if I’m Still Struggling to Find Mrs Right?

If you are still looking for Mrs Right and not finding much success on the dating scene, consider working with a counselor. Someone who specializes in relationship counseling for men may be beneficial. A counselor can help you identify areas of disconnect and help you work on communication skills that may help you meet and interact with potential companions.

Dating can be a frustrating experience. Perhaps you have been looking for Mrs Right for a long time. Don’t give up! Until she enters your life, seek to understand your own needs and feelings.  Prepare yourself to be with someone special and don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s worth the time and effort to find the right match for you.

For information on counseling for men, visit Phil Fauerbach’s Relationship Counseling for Men page. To set up an appointment, please call Philip J Fauerbach, LMHC at (813) 651-1221.